This always worked for me....
First and foremost, make sure the bike is tuned perfectly! Having the timing right is the most important thing! If it's kicking back, then the timing is off, there's too much gas in the combustion chamber, or you are starting the kick on the wrong stroke.
If the engine is cold, open the fuel, prime the carb (or twist the throttle a couple times if you have an accel pump), then kick it over a few times with the ignition off. Kick it until you are on the compression stroke. You should be able to feel increase in compression. You can easily find out what stroke you are on by opening the pushrod covers and "test kicking" it. When the valves are all closed (pushrods in down position), and you feel compression, then you are on the right stroke. After doing that a few times, you can get used to the "feel" of it.
The pedal should be just slightly past the top of it's travel. Oh yeah, as was mentioned earlier, you need to make sure the gears are in good shape and the shaft is shimmed properly, or it'll slip and you'll need a new knee after a while! A worn bushing in the sprocket cover or loose cover bolts will cause binding, too.
Then turn on your ignition and let er fly. If everything is tuned correctly (ignition and carb), then it should fire right up on the first kick.
If the engine is warm, then you do everything the same except priming the carb. First try it without doing that, then if it doesn't start, twist the throttle ONCE and try it again.
Have fun!

Kickers are a good thing to have! I wish the new bikes had them. Beats the heck out of push starting them!
By the way, thanks for serving our country! Been there, done that. I just retired from the Air Force in 2000. Keep up the good work!