I just bought an 03 wide glide from a pawn shop... I was able to find neutral while running and at a stop, but after changing my fluids I can't find it anymore while it's stopped and running. I'm running belray vtwin in the Trans and primary and it is filled to spec. Thank you in advance for your expertise and help...

 

I'm not sure that engine oil is a very suitable oil for the primary, however that shouldn't prevent you from finding neutral while the engine is not running. Gently rock the bike back and forth while working your way down to first gear, then up one click for neutral. You don't need to operate the clutch to achieve that.

You may need to adjust the clutch, for which there is a Sticky at the top of this section. Do it the correct way and don't cut corners! If all fails drain the primary and install primary oil.

 

It's not engine oil that's in the primary, it's the belray primary fluid, I can get neutral easily while the bike is off, just not while it's running, I've tried rocking back and forth

 

Fair enough. I suggest the next move is to adjust your clutch by the book. You probably have enough drag at the plates to cause your problem.