Have you thought about a late model low mileage used Dyna Low Rider? This was many years ago, my wife wanted a big twin but always felt they were too heavy for her. Then our dealer at the time pointed her to an FXDL. All 5' 2" of her sat on it and she immediately fell in love. They were really well balanced. I have an '18 softtail Low Rider, it's great but nothing like the Dyna's were balance-wise.