How do you keep riding after your best friend is killed riding
#122
08-20-2015, 02:22 PM
Road Warrior
Bruce - you have my condolences and I really feel your pain, 2015 has been a bad year for you and your family.
you can't expect your extended HD family to say anything other than how they feel and how their own experiences have shaped them and their personal decisions to ride or not
some of the members of this dysfunctional family are going to say some insensitive things others will be very sensitive to your circumstances
whatever YOU decide - YOU and your family have to be at peace with
Hug your family and tell them you love them, you'll never forget your friend and 'big bro' and he would understand any decision you make
Good Luck - I hope the grieving process brings you all comfort
you can't expect your extended HD family to say anything other than how they feel and how their own experiences have shaped them and their personal decisions to ride or not
some of the members of this dysfunctional family are going to say some insensitive things others will be very sensitive to your circumstances
whatever YOU decide - YOU and your family have to be at peace with
Hug your family and tell them you love them, you'll never forget your friend and 'big bro' and he would understand any decision you make
Good Luck - I hope the grieving process brings you all comfort
#123
08-20-2015, 02:51 PM
Seasoned HDF Member
#124
08-20-2015, 04:39 PM
Unofficial HDF Chaplain
Got a short letter from a pastor friend, today. While it has nothing to do with your dilemma, it has everything to do with it. Thought it might help you in this moment in time:
A pastor friend of mine has a son who was in a terrible skateboarding accident yesterday. The boy was in surgery within an hour of the tragedy but his condition is poor and there may be permanent brain damage. Dave, my friend, is a good man who has only ever done ministry with integrity and a God-honoring attitude. He is an example of what a pastor is supposed to look like in every area of his life. Please join me in seeking the Lord to heal his son and strengthen Dave’s family through this hour of testing and trial.
Events like these test our souls. We can become shaken and uncertain. Where is God? I thought this…. I thought that. Uncertainty is not saying in situations like this “I don’t know” but rather saying “I can’t know”. We cannot ever possibly know all that will come our way, circumstance wise. However, there is much we CAN know. The answers are not within ourselves but lie outside of us, within God’s mind and heart. God reveals what we need to know through His word. This is why it is so important in the days in which we live to be people of the book.
hope that adds to the puzzle that you are trying to piece together
Cast your burden on the Lord, and he will sustain you; he will never permit the righteous to be moved.
Psalm 55:22
A pastor friend of mine has a son who was in a terrible skateboarding accident yesterday. The boy was in surgery within an hour of the tragedy but his condition is poor and there may be permanent brain damage. Dave, my friend, is a good man who has only ever done ministry with integrity and a God-honoring attitude. He is an example of what a pastor is supposed to look like in every area of his life. Please join me in seeking the Lord to heal his son and strengthen Dave’s family through this hour of testing and trial.
Events like these test our souls. We can become shaken and uncertain. Where is God? I thought this…. I thought that. Uncertainty is not saying in situations like this “I don’t know” but rather saying “I can’t know”. We cannot ever possibly know all that will come our way, circumstance wise. However, there is much we CAN know. The answers are not within ourselves but lie outside of us, within God’s mind and heart. God reveals what we need to know through His word. This is why it is so important in the days in which we live to be people of the book.
hope that adds to the puzzle that you are trying to piece together
Cast your burden on the Lord, and he will sustain you; he will never permit the righteous to be moved.
Psalm 55:22
Last edited by harleycharlie1992; 08-20-2015 at 04:52 PM.
#125
08-20-2015, 04:47 PM
Seasoned HDF Member
Grow up.
#126
08-20-2015, 05:08 PM
Got a short letter from a pastor friend, today. While it has nothing to do with your dilemma, it has everything to do with it. Thought it might help you in this moment in time:
A pastor friend of mine has a son who was in a terrible skateboarding accident yesterday. The boy was in surgery within an hour of the tragedy but his condition is poor and there may be permanent brain damage. Dave, my friend, is a good man who has only ever done ministry with integrity and a God-honoring attitude. He is an example of what a pastor is supposed to look like in every area of his life. Please join me in seeking the Lord to heal his son and strengthen Dave’s family through this hour of testing and trial.
Events like these test our souls. We can become shaken and uncertain. Where is God? I thought this…. I thought that. Uncertainty is not saying in situations like this “I don’t know” but rather saying “I can’t know”. We cannot ever possibly know all that will come our way, circumstance wise. However, there is much we CAN know. The answers are not within ourselves but lie outside of us, within God’s mind and heart. God reveals what we need to know through His word. This is why it is so important in the days in which we live to be people of the book.
hope that adds to the puzzle that you are trying to piece together
Cast your burden on the Lord, and he will sustain you; he will never permit the righteous to be moved.
Psalm 55:22
A pastor friend of mine has a son who was in a terrible skateboarding accident yesterday. The boy was in surgery within an hour of the tragedy but his condition is poor and there may be permanent brain damage. Dave, my friend, is a good man who has only ever done ministry with integrity and a God-honoring attitude. He is an example of what a pastor is supposed to look like in every area of his life. Please join me in seeking the Lord to heal his son and strengthen Dave’s family through this hour of testing and trial.
Events like these test our souls. We can become shaken and uncertain. Where is God? I thought this…. I thought that. Uncertainty is not saying in situations like this “I don’t know” but rather saying “I can’t know”. We cannot ever possibly know all that will come our way, circumstance wise. However, there is much we CAN know. The answers are not within ourselves but lie outside of us, within God’s mind and heart. God reveals what we need to know through His word. This is why it is so important in the days in which we live to be people of the book.
hope that adds to the puzzle that you are trying to piece together
Cast your burden on the Lord, and he will sustain you; he will never permit the righteous to be moved.
Psalm 55:22
God Bless!
#127
08-20-2015, 05:36 PM
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Sorry for your loss.a buddy of mine died on his bike two weeks ago here in morgantown wv.
Somehow he got tangled up in a two car accident that happened in front of him.I've lost at least a half dozen friends on motorcycles some caused by their own neglect some caused by others.its bad enough to here or read of things like this but when it's someone you know it puts your *** down in a chair and makes you think.so whatever choice you make will be the right choice for you.
Somehow he got tangled up in a two car accident that happened in front of him.I've lost at least a half dozen friends on motorcycles some caused by their own neglect some caused by others.its bad enough to here or read of things like this but when it's someone you know it puts your *** down in a chair and makes you think.so whatever choice you make will be the right choice for you.
#128
08-20-2015, 05:43 PM
Sorry for your loss.a buddy of mine died on his bike two weeks ago here in morgantown wv.
Somehow he got tangled up in a two car accident that happened in front of him.I've lost at least a half dozen friends on motorcycles some caused by their own neglect some caused by others.its bad enough to here or read of things like this but when it's someone you know it puts your *** down in a chair and makes you think.so whatever choice you make will be the right choice for you.
Somehow he got tangled up in a two car accident that happened in front of him.I've lost at least a half dozen friends on motorcycles some caused by their own neglect some caused by others.its bad enough to here or read of things like this but when it's someone you know it puts your *** down in a chair and makes you think.so whatever choice you make will be the right choice for you.
#129
08-20-2015, 05:52 PM
....... how do you ride after that ?
..... you think about him in the wind, throw your leg over the saddle & roll.
..... he'd want you to keep riding... so, remember him, be ever vigilant, fully aware & do what you both loved doing.
#130
08-21-2015, 07:55 AM
Intermediate
God bless you my friend and stay strong. Sadly like you and many others here I have gone through a similar experience. I lost my best friend just over 2 years ago. We grew up together, at times we lived together, and we always rode together. He was my only riding partner.
When he passed away I knew right away I had to keep riding, It's the only thing I am real passionate about, however it was still tough to get back on the saddle and it took a while before I would let my wife (passenger) ride with me again. Riding alone my mileage has really suffered but I am starting to get the passion back. I just bought a new bike and may even start going to some local rides to meet new people.
I don't really have any advice for you as you seem to be handling it the best way you can, just take your time and put your trust the Lord.
When he passed away I knew right away I had to keep riding, It's the only thing I am real passionate about, however it was still tough to get back on the saddle and it took a while before I would let my wife (passenger) ride with me again. Riding alone my mileage has really suffered but I am starting to get the passion back. I just bought a new bike and may even start going to some local rides to meet new people.
I don't really have any advice for you as you seem to be handling it the best way you can, just take your time and put your trust the Lord.