Did you have to give him permission to get his wife pregnant too?

 

From one Dad to another, you need to back off and let him go his own way.

 

Agree he is a grown man, and is free and more than capable to make his own decisions. I would add that I support all of my grown kids decisions, although maybe not all up front. That is why I was careful to put the word "advice" in the subject line of the thread. There were no "orders", or putting my foot down. When I am asked what I think, I tend to make my position clear.

As one poster said, I may have some regret, or remorse on my position, hence posting to an internet forum. There is some truth to that observation and thought the diverse opinions on here might be interesting.

To those who suggest my position may create barrier I may regret that is not true. We spent the rest of the day bbq'ing and enjoying a couple beers while going through his 450 dirt bike that he hasn't ridden for two years.

Many more facets to the situation. So to the posters that suggest I cut the "apron strings" or be banned. All I will say is that you fall in category in my book.

I take pride in the fact that all my grown kids still ask me for advice. To me it means they value it even though they may not heed it.

 

If he is responsible and financially secure as you say, then what is the concern? Owning a bike and becoming irresponsible are not related. My advise would be to remind him of his responsibilities and make sure he has considered the added costs of a newborn and the life insurance he would need especially if he wants to ride. Ever consider that the stress of a new child on top of today's world is building within him and that an occasional ride with his dad is something he needs?

 

Just where did you read that I granted or denied him permission? Fkin douchebag.

 

hey, you asked for our advice.

 

Strong coffee got you wound there pal??

During my service days, stand down meant to take a break, a pause, smoke em if you got em.
So when you ask your pops a question, and you don't like his answer, you tell him it's none of your damn busines... Okay.

Got a short list prepared for reasons not to let him see his grandkids?
Sounds to me like you got one hell of a relationship with yer pops..

While we're jumping to conclusions.

 

Maybe as he's getting ready to have his first kid he is trying to emulate his father. You enjoy riding with him right? Maybe he wants his kid to grow up around a dad who rides.

Maybe as he gets older and is making more adult decisions he sees his time to ride with you slipping away.

Might be presumptuous on many levels but I write these suggestions because I recently found myself in similar shoes. I just had twins. I'm deployed now and purchasing a new HD. Not so sure my dad agrees with the timing or buying a brand new expensive bike for my first. In fact he has given me unsolicited advice more than once on the contrary. I got hooked on the idea after riding my dad's bike once and taking the MSF course. He's not getting any younger and if I never get to ride with him I'll regret it forever. I'm making my own decision. I can afford it and if I wreck it that's what insurance is for.

 

You definitely need to stand him down on the Nightster......











Make him get a Dyna