I was maintenance test pilot in Army my last several years on blackhawks, and had an avionics tech teach me the ropes on solid connections. It has paid off so far. Turn signal wires have been successfully extended for my 'criss-cross' and so far they are working, front and back, as advertised. Also was able to successfully test wire up my spot lights using my relay. Here's small description of how my spot lights will be wired:
1) 30 amp relay
2) on/off toggle switch
3) customer accessory connector (deutsch) under the seat
4) B+ battery connector under the seat (Metri-pack 480)
5) 15 amp fuse
a) I have the spot light wires joining together into 1 and then feeding into terminal 87 on the relay.
b) Terminal 20 on the relay (which joins with 87 for the main connection) will feed into a 15 amp fuse, which will tap off the B+ connector (metri-pack 480, still need to find the terminals for those)
c) Terminal 85 on the relay will be ground, feeding into the customer accessory port ground connection
d) Terminal 86 will feed into the on/off toggle switch, then into the hot terminal of the customer accessory port
here's a pic of that (credits to original posters all over the forum for the relay connections):
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I wired it up using temporary connections and had successful on/off control via the ignition switch to accessory, and via the toggle switch. No headlight in the loop. All worked well.
All in all a successful day. I need to find some mesh wire covering, a few connectors, and, figure out the cleanest way to get the front wiring into the frame and back to the battery. As mentioned before, I plan on installing a on/off rocker switch into the electrical caddy cover. There's plenty of room there, and will be out of the way, but accessible enough to reach down with left hand and flip the lights off as needed. Also need to find a good place to put the 15amp fuse for the B+ connection.