Don't sweat it. 55,000 miles on my 03 Fatboy. I cleaned the filter once, at about 10,000 miles, when I pulled the fuel pump out to switch to a different tank.
Synthetic oil can go at least 5,000 miles before needing to be changed.
Man, you are being so paranoid. I got 120K on my Road King and it's never seen the inside of a dealer since it left there. Change your oil every 5K or so and you will be OK. Beyond a throttle cable break at 75K and a few worn out wheel bearings, nothing has gone wrong. Fuel filter replace? Why?
The best info I can give you is to buy a Manual specific to your bike. I also agree, 25K mile check up is bullshit. I do and check everything, every time I detail my bike out. If I find something I fix it or replace it or get it fixed if something goes wrong above my skill level and the tools I have.
You killed the scoot, a slow death you gave it! Damn it, man...lmfao
You're gonna be just fine, do get the maintenance done sometime soon tho. I did get a laugh out of that, like theres some 5k monster going to get loose if it's not done at exactly the 5k interval.