O'Lady Got Snoopy & Not Impressed.
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Road Warrior
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From an "ol' lady" .. THANK YOU!
And for the record - I work, I make more than my husband, I pay the bills, (besides doing most of the household chores), and more of the "disposable income" goes toward his toys over mine. Most of the time, I'm O.K. with that because I love him and he is good to me and I love to see him smile. (Every now and then I say "hey, wait a minute - I deserve _____" and so I "treat" myself). Second, isn't marriage supposed to be a partnership? What's with all these people hiding things from their spouse - what's up with "his" and "hers" money and accounts? My hubby and I both work, both income goes to pay bills, and both incomes go to pay for vacation, fun, hobbies, etc. Simple. No keeping track of "whats yours, what's mine". And if either one of us wants to do more than use the ATM card to pull out a little pin money, we DISCUSS IT! Saves a whole lot of hassle, and instills the sense of partnership that marriage SHOULD be.
And for the record - I work, I make more than my husband, I pay the bills, (besides doing most of the household chores), and more of the "disposable income" goes toward his toys over mine. Most of the time, I'm O.K. with that because I love him and he is good to me and I love to see him smile. (Every now and then I say "hey, wait a minute - I deserve _____" and so I "treat" myself). Second, isn't marriage supposed to be a partnership? What's with all these people hiding things from their spouse - what's up with "his" and "hers" money and accounts? My hubby and I both work, both income goes to pay bills, and both incomes go to pay for vacation, fun, hobbies, etc. Simple. No keeping track of "whats yours, what's mine". And if either one of us wants to do more than use the ATM card to pull out a little pin money, we DISCUSS IT! Saves a whole lot of hassle, and instills the sense of partnership that marriage SHOULD be.
Ya deep down she knows this is my first big toy I ever had....new cars, houses, trips etc...all our life. This toy was due and she does understand in a way even though she thinks I am love with a piece of metal as she calls it. We do keep our incomes seperate...it's been like that from the start. I pay the mortgage and half her car payment since I make more than she does. From there we do our own thing. And the beauty part of it, we never argue about money as long as we both keep to our end of things.
Btw this wasn't a post about relationship problems....I also would not be impressed if she had a 'new shoes' addiction. As long as she kept to her end of the plan, I don't care when it comes down to it if that is what help makes her happy.
Last edited by Josewales; Feb 5, 2012 at 11:15 AM.
Road Warrior
Joined: Nov 2011
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From: North Carolina
I feel ya brotha! With my current build it has cost me more than just parts. My old sayin' has always been, at least I'm not renting a bar stool and you damn sure know where to find me, in the garage. lol
When she agreed we weren't going on vacation this spring, I seen the opening to make my move! She wasn't real happy about my plan initially, but she has come on board now that things are falling back into place on the bike and she's liking it. But now she throws out this excuse that she won't be able to ride with me because her sporty will look to ghetto next to mine! It never ends and of course now she'll expect her sporty to be maxed out. lol
Amen - there is always a cost!
When she agreed we weren't going on vacation this spring, I seen the opening to make my move! She wasn't real happy about my plan initially, but she has come on board now that things are falling back into place on the bike and she's liking it. But now she throws out this excuse that she won't be able to ride with me because her sporty will look to ghetto next to mine! It never ends and of course now she'll expect her sporty to be maxed out. lol
I have the same problem with my wife. I even had to change my ebay password. She doesn't care what I spend on my bike. Not in the least. My problem is that she feels she gets to spend as much on her stuff as I spend on mine. Which really is fine but every grand I spend on my motorcycle actually costs me two grand. Wives don't need to be told everything......
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From: Chicagoland
From an "ol' lady" .. THANK YOU!
And for the record - I work, I make more than my husband, I pay the bills, (besides doing most of the household chores), and more of the "disposable income" goes toward his toys over mine. Most of the time, I'm O.K. with that because I love him and he is good to me and I love to see him smile. (Every now and then I say "hey, wait a minute - I deserve _____" and so I "treat" myself). Second, isn't marriage supposed to be a partnership? What's with all these people hiding things from their spouse - what's up with "his" and "hers" money and accounts? My hubby and I both work, both income goes to pay bills, and both incomes go to pay for vacation, fun, hobbies, etc. Simple. No keeping track of "whats yours, what's mine". And if either one of us wants to do more than use the ATM card to pull out a little pin money, we DISCUSS IT! Saves a whole lot of hassle, and instills the sense of partnership that marriage SHOULD be.
And for the record - I work, I make more than my husband, I pay the bills, (besides doing most of the household chores), and more of the "disposable income" goes toward his toys over mine. Most of the time, I'm O.K. with that because I love him and he is good to me and I love to see him smile. (Every now and then I say "hey, wait a minute - I deserve _____" and so I "treat" myself). Second, isn't marriage supposed to be a partnership? What's with all these people hiding things from their spouse - what's up with "his" and "hers" money and accounts? My hubby and I both work, both income goes to pay bills, and both incomes go to pay for vacation, fun, hobbies, etc. Simple. No keeping track of "whats yours, what's mine". And if either one of us wants to do more than use the ATM card to pull out a little pin money, we DISCUSS IT! Saves a whole lot of hassle, and instills the sense of partnership that marriage SHOULD be.
We don't hide anything from each other, and we don't spend more than we can afford. But because of our disciplined budgeting, we can actually afford a fairly comfortable way of life. Now, that being said... she didn't ask how much the new bike paint cost, and I didn't tell her. If she asks... well, then I suppose I'll tell her. She never gives me grief over that stuff, but it was a lot of money.
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Joined: Dec 2011
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From: Sparta, GA
I was faced with a similar situation... the ups guy kept bringing parts and unfortunately they always arrived exactly when the wife got home... So in order to keep everyone happy... I bought her a seat in the Riders Edge Course and once she completed it successfully, a Heritage Softail... Now everyone is happy when the ups guy arrives!
Tourer
Joined: Dec 2010
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From: Mesa arizona
My fault for leaving the stack of mastercard statements in a spot that is easy to find. Good thing I don't sub to ****:P
Anyways when she asked, all I had to say 'Ya maybe we shouldn't go to Mexico in April so I can finish off my bike'...was enough to shut down that conversation
She may not be impressed with me atm, but I am
Anyways when she asked, all I had to say 'Ya maybe we shouldn't go to Mexico in April so I can finish off my bike'...was enough to shut down that conversation
She may not be impressed with me atm, but I am
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