Went for a ride to collect my thoughts..
Seasoned HDF Member
Joined: Jan 2011
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From: Wisconsin, USA
Sorry to hear of your loss. I always hope to go before my wife of 36 years. I dread the pain of losing her. I know it has to be tough. Dont be afraid to share your grief on here, especially with those who have been through it before, like Mike Lawless.
Godspeed.
Godspeed.
Outstanding HDF Member
Joined: Jan 2014
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From: Central California
In hind sight, I always thought that I would go before her. After she passed, I had the thought that I would not have wanted her to go through the pain of the loss. I wouldn't wish that on anyone.
The truth of the matter is, if you are in a loving marriage, and stay together, one of you, either you or your spouse, will suffer that pain.
Live for the moment my friends. Make memories. We don't know what tomorrow brings.
Road Captain
Joined: Nov 2017
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From: So Cal!
It seems when we are in our 20's (and seemingly invincible), these terribly low times in our lives are the farthest things from our minds. As we age (I too am in my 50's), and unfortunately incur loss, the pain is difficult to bear.
Ashnic, just know that you are not alone. Keep riding and keep your head on the positives in your life. Regardless of age, your 'kids' need you! Thank you for allowing us to share in your pain, and healing. Thoughts and prayers with you Brother.
Mike L; same goodwill to you. I know for a fact time heals the wounds, yet I know all too well the rough days can still sneak up on you.
Ashnic, just know that you are not alone. Keep riding and keep your head on the positives in your life. Regardless of age, your 'kids' need you! Thank you for allowing us to share in your pain, and healing. Thoughts and prayers with you Brother.
Mike L; same goodwill to you. I know for a fact time heals the wounds, yet I know all too well the rough days can still sneak up on you.
Last edited by SoCalHDMC; Nov 29, 2017 at 10:47 AM.
Road Captain
Joined: Oct 2010
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From: Bakersfield, CA
My heart goes out to you Ashnic. I lost my spouse of 24 years, about nine years ago to kidney cancer. I believe I've experienced many of the feelings you are experiencing, and likely will experience going forward. The only advice I can tender is to keep close to your faith... stay positive and busy (I bought my Harley about a year after being a widow)... and in time, the world will turn again for you. Heartfelt condolences, and all the best as you go forward!
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From: Texas, USA
Ashnic, my heart sank when I read your post. I can only sympathize with you and I understand the pain and grief you are experiencing. My sincere condolences on the loss of your wife. If necessary, search out support groups and grief counselors. It can help to have people with you that have been through the same circumstances.
Thoughts and prayers to you and your family. I hope the memories you have can ease the heartache that will never completely go away.
Hopefully Charlie will post his usual kind words.
Thoughts and prayers to you and your family. I hope the memories you have can ease the heartache that will never completely go away.
Hopefully Charlie will post his usual kind words.
Ultimate HDF Member
Joined: Apr 2016
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From: Monroe, North Carolina
Ashnic, I am so sorry for the loss of your wife Angie. It is very hard to deal with when you find out your love one has Cancer. I am going through this with my wife that has liver Cancer. I am taking her to Cancer clinic of America in Georgia this Friday as a last resort for help. I don't have words that can heal your pain but will pray for you and your children to make it through this tough time in your lives. Once again I am so sorry and feel so bad for you and your family. Be strong for your kids.
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From: Wisconsin, near the Lake
My deepest condolences to you and your family. Will keep you in my prayers.
I can't imagine what your are going through.
Hang in there, Keep the wind in your face and GOD by your side.
I can't imagine what your are going through.
Hang in there, Keep the wind in your face and GOD by your side.
