Wife gave me "The Talk" tonight.
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RE: Wife gave me "The Talk" tonight.
ORIGINAL: TxHarleyGuy2007
While true, your wife may have married you because (as you suggest) you had no fear, took risks, and what not. But as marriages grow, so do people. Very few of us are going at the same pace, doing the same things, and at the same frequency that we did some 20 years ago. Your wife is simply attempting to convey to you that she is concerned not only for your health and well being, but for the health and well being of your marriage. Simply put, she loves you and wants you around for the long haul.
There's not a damn thing wrong with 'slowing down'. If one isn't concerned enough about their own health, then they should at least take into account the feelings and concerns of their loved one. If not for your own sake, maybe you should consider slowing down a tad for the sake of your wife. It's not a macho thing. And no, she more than likely isn't trying to change you, etc. Again, she just wants you to be around so that the two of you can enjoy the autumn of your years together.
I, too, enjoy a cold beer, a cocktail or two, and a damn fine cigar here and again. But I don't drink or smoke anywhere near the way I did back when. I'm 43 and have been happily married for 25+ years now. And yeah, my wife has shared her concerns with me about several things; riding without a helmet, drinking, and my cigars. Do I listen or just brush her off? I listen. Because at the end of the day, she means more to me than any of my vices; Harley's included. And if by my having one less cocktail, or smoking one less cigar here and again is going to bring her peace of mind, then I'd be a fool not to take heed. Just my take.
ORIGINAL: Kolni
Basically, she is worried "if I keep going at the rate I am and keep ride I will kill myself!"
I am think, where the **** did THIS come from?
I am 42, pretty damn healthy (other then the back and a smokers cough), and I don't ride like a maniac!
I understand a woman being worried...but DAMN!
She married me cause I had no fear, took risks, and was sure of myself.
Now she things those same traits are gonna kill me and that I should "slow down"!?!?!
Basically, she is worried "if I keep going at the rate I am and keep ride I will kill myself!"
I am think, where the **** did THIS come from?
I am 42, pretty damn healthy (other then the back and a smokers cough), and I don't ride like a maniac!
I understand a woman being worried...but DAMN!
She married me cause I had no fear, took risks, and was sure of myself.
Now she things those same traits are gonna kill me and that I should "slow down"!?!?!
There's not a damn thing wrong with 'slowing down'. If one isn't concerned enough about their own health, then they should at least take into account the feelings and concerns of their loved one. If not for your own sake, maybe you should consider slowing down a tad for the sake of your wife. It's not a macho thing. And no, she more than likely isn't trying to change you, etc. Again, she just wants you to be around so that the two of you can enjoy the autumn of your years together.
I, too, enjoy a cold beer, a cocktail or two, and a damn fine cigar here and again. But I don't drink or smoke anywhere near the way I did back when. I'm 43 and have been happily married for 25+ years now. And yeah, my wife has shared her concerns with me about several things; riding without a helmet, drinking, and my cigars. Do I listen or just brush her off? I listen. Because at the end of the day, she means more to me than any of my vices; Harley's included. And if by my having one less cocktail, or smoking one less cigar here and again is going to bring her peace of mind, then I'd be a fool not to take heed. Just my take.
We are not as young as we used to be....We all evolve. I know, my own hubby's philosophy although he may grow older, he doesn't ever want to grow up. A quality I happen to appreciate. He is young at heart...but...he also is slowly coming to the realization that he is not15yrs old anymore. He has responsibilities, and people who depend on his being there..... even at our age. We have adult children.
He wants to be there to walk our daughter down the isle (some day),teach both our "kids" about life, create memories for them to keep foreverand enjoy our future grandchildren. We want to grow old ... together. So, yea .... we both don't take the chances we once did. Neither of us, do.
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RE: Wife gave me "The Talk" tonight.
I've been married 22 yrs this time. Guess I'm a hard as*. If my wife come in and said she was worried about me, I would probaly laugh. It's her dang sister that thinks she has the right to lecture me about the way I ride fast.
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ORIGINAL: dadofsix
Ain't nuthin that a $250,000.00 full life policy with her named as beneficiary won't cure. Hell, she may just suggest ya do a lot more riding.
Ain't nuthin that a $250,000.00 full life policy with her named as beneficiary won't cure. Hell, she may just suggest ya do a lot more riding.
My better half is the same, not worried about my riding, just the other idiots out there. I do ride a bit different when she's on the back, but at 41 I'm not speed demon or running around doing tricks.
Hell, put me down as the beneficiary on a million policy and I might go get you that faster bike.....[8D]
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