The trying girlfriend
Ultimate HDF Member
Joined: Dec 2006
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From: Central Oklahoma
RE: The trying girlfriend
ORIGINAL: Danni
BadBob...you must be a comedian because no women waits on a man hand and foot when he wears more makeup then they do ...lol
BadBob...you must be a comedian because no women waits on a man hand and foot when he wears more makeup then they do ...lol
You're welcome to hang with us. Welcome to HDForums.
Elite HDF Member
Joined: Sep 2005
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From: Ontario, Canada
RE: The trying girlfriend
The forum has a classified section.
Here's a link to a seat that will fit, maybe it's still available.
https://www.hdforums.com/m_3163987/tm.htm
Here's a link to a seat that will fit, maybe it's still available.
https://www.hdforums.com/m_3163987/tm.htm
Road Warrior
Joined: Mar 2008
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RE: The trying girlfriend
Hey, what's wrong with a stripper seat? That's what I have on my bike and my wife told me it isn't quite as bad as she thought it would be.
Anyway, I'm not saying you don't need to keep the spending under control. I'm just suggesting you keep in mind what is likely driving impulsive behavior. Minimizing stress helps a lot with keeping impulses under control. That isn't all that matters, but you started out saying you were fighting constantly. If so then that's counter-productive.
Overall, the point is you catch more flies with honey than vinegar. I certainly have no way of knowing whether your issues and concerns are valid or invalid. Rather my point is only that whatever your goals, valid or invalid, some approachs to achieving those goals are more effective than others. Assuming your goals are moral, that you wish to accomplish something you perceive as beneficial to both of you then stress is your enemy.
Your first post said you two were fighting constantly over this. Apparently that isn't working. When what you're doing isn't working then you try something else. What's going to be most effective is find small steps in the right direction he is likely to accomplish so you can praise and compliment him for doing it. Perhaps just setting one night a week aside to go out with you. A nice romantic diner with my wife or polish the bike? Hum, um, diner sounds good, really good. Go inside and have a fight with my wife or stay out here polishing the bike? Boy, the bike sure is dirty. It doesn't matter if staying out there polishing the bike just makes a fight more likely because it's avoiding one for right now. Think about it. If he's impulsive do you think the long-term consequences of his actions plays a big role in his decisions?
Anyway, I'm not saying you don't need to keep the spending under control. I'm just suggesting you keep in mind what is likely driving impulsive behavior. Minimizing stress helps a lot with keeping impulses under control. That isn't all that matters, but you started out saying you were fighting constantly. If so then that's counter-productive.
Overall, the point is you catch more flies with honey than vinegar. I certainly have no way of knowing whether your issues and concerns are valid or invalid. Rather my point is only that whatever your goals, valid or invalid, some approachs to achieving those goals are more effective than others. Assuming your goals are moral, that you wish to accomplish something you perceive as beneficial to both of you then stress is your enemy.
Your first post said you two were fighting constantly over this. Apparently that isn't working. When what you're doing isn't working then you try something else. What's going to be most effective is find small steps in the right direction he is likely to accomplish so you can praise and compliment him for doing it. Perhaps just setting one night a week aside to go out with you. A nice romantic diner with my wife or polish the bike? Hum, um, diner sounds good, really good. Go inside and have a fight with my wife or stay out here polishing the bike? Boy, the bike sure is dirty. It doesn't matter if staying out there polishing the bike just makes a fight more likely because it's avoiding one for right now. Think about it. If he's impulsive do you think the long-term consequences of his actions plays a big role in his decisions?
Tourer
Joined: May 2007
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RE: The trying girlfriend
ORIGINAL: Danni
Hello everyone... i do not own a Harley... but my fiance' does. since we fight ALOT about this bike or as I like to call it " The other Girlfriend " lol... i figured I would make an attempt on my part andget on this forum to see why he loves his bike so much. Maybe, just maybe, i could grow to love it too...hopefully...lol
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Hello everyone... i do not own a Harley... but my fiance' does. since we fight ALOT about this bike or as I like to call it " The other Girlfriend " lol... i figured I would make an attempt on my part andget on this forum to see why he loves his bike so much. Maybe, just maybe, i could grow to love it too...hopefully...lol
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Btw, the first time you get on a HD, you'll find one of these shirts...
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Joined: Dec 2007
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From: Indy
RE: The trying girlfriend
I think I see the problem, it is he is not riding the bike ,he is just putting addons on the bike.
Both of you take a ride out of town to the north , ride up to the poconos.
On a vacation go here http://www.caesarspoconoresorts.com/...onopalace.aspx
Both of you take a ride out of town to the north , ride up to the poconos.
On a vacation go here http://www.caesarspoconoresorts.com/...onopalace.aspx
Road Captain
Joined: Jul 2007
Posts: 520
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From: South East WI
RE: The trying girlfriend
Twenty five years ago I had a Super Glide chopper with a camels hump seat. I took her with me to a dealer one Saturday she went to the owner and asked does that seat fit on that bike the owner said yes she said please put it on.Now fast forward to this year our 25th anniversary as she says one thing I never thought we would still be doing is rideing a HD.Not me I knew.
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