What do i do? how do i handle this!?
What do i do? how do i handle this!?
So, I'm in the process of purchasing my first bike of my own right now while I'm currently deployed to Afghanistan. I will be home fairly shortly, and have been talking about this for months with my wife. I have experience on dirt bikes, and some road time when i was younger. I will be a touch rusty when I first get on the bike, and haven't asked her to get on right away, but have said I want to her to ride with me as it will be a great way to spend time together... well, today I got this from her.. :
After what I keep seeing I will never be on your bike sorry it doesn't take much to Get in an accident I don't feel save being on one and won't ever
mind you she is a medical student, and is in the O.R for the first time ever, and has seen a few people in motorcycle accidents. One involved a guy going off the road with his sidecar, and one other was a guy had hit a deer. But, now she seems to think that everyone that rides a motorcycle will die. She also has NEVER ridden a motorcycle ever before..
so again.. what do i do? what do i say? where do i go with this!?
After what I keep seeing I will never be on your bike sorry it doesn't take much to Get in an accident I don't feel save being on one and won't ever
mind you she is a medical student, and is in the O.R for the first time ever, and has seen a few people in motorcycle accidents. One involved a guy going off the road with his sidecar, and one other was a guy had hit a deer. But, now she seems to think that everyone that rides a motorcycle will die. She also has NEVER ridden a motorcycle ever before..
so again.. what do i do? what do i say? where do i go with this!?
Let it be for now. Get the bike and get some good experience first, then start showing her pictures of some nice scenic rides without putting pressure, eventually she might change her mind. Otherwise just ride yourself and enjoy it.
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My mother was a Doctor for 35 years and she always told me that the worse accidents or things she saw involved a motorcycle ... but she also told me that 95% of them involved alcohol in some shape or form.
Just get your bike, ride it safe and after a while she'll get used to it and ride with you (If nothing bad happens before) which is NOT going to happen. Just don't go crazy on the throttle, get the rust off your shoulders and don't drink and ride.
Good luck and thank you for your service
Just get your bike, ride it safe and after a while she'll get used to it and ride with you (If nothing bad happens before) which is NOT going to happen. Just don't go crazy on the throttle, get the rust off your shoulders and don't drink and ride.
Good luck and thank you for your service
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Don't push the issue. Get the bike you want and enjoy riding it maybe she will come around after a while. Keep an open invitation for her to ride with you.
The best of all possible worlds is when you both have bikes and ride together that way. I'd love to meet that kind of woman myself.
The best of all possible worlds is when you both have bikes and ride together that way. I'd love to meet that kind of woman myself.
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Your wife is right...everyone that rides will die, just probably not today.
My wife road on the back for years and then just this year decided she didn't want to anymore.
She encourages me to ride every chance I get get, and I do.
The bike handles a lot better without her on the back, and I can ride a little more aggressive without having to worry about her.
My wife road on the back for years and then just this year decided she didn't want to anymore.
She encourages me to ride every chance I get get, and I do.
The bike handles a lot better without her on the back, and I can ride a little more aggressive without having to worry about her.
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Road Master
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Ask her if she is going to stop driving a car...I'm sure the ER gets folks in that have been in car wrecks.
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My wife and I have both spent too much time in the trauma bay, not as patients. We have been married 18 years and I have been riding longer than that. She has never been on my bike and never will. Just can't get past the trauma bay.
I never push the issue and I ride alone.
I am never going to push her to do anything she doesn't feel comfortable with. NOTHING good will come out of that approach
I never push the issue and I ride alone.
I am never going to push her to do anything she doesn't feel comfortable with. NOTHING good will come out of that approach