What does your future wife say? Is she pushing for you to sell? To me, that's an important question. I'm very lucky in that my wife has tolerated the many (too many??) bikes I have have owned in the past 24 years. I can't tell you how many guys have said to me "I got married and had to sell my bike", which I could never understand. I could not deal with those types of conditions in a relationship.

But it sounds like you're the one who is thinking about selling the bike, not getting pressured to do it. So I will say keep it if at all possible. With all of upgrades you've made, you'll have a hard time recouping the $$ and time you've got in the bike, and I'll bet that if you do sell it you'll regret it, and that usually leads to getting a similar bike later (first hand experiencehere!) and starting the upgrade process all over again.

Good luck with your upcoming wedding!

 

Keep the bike and elope?

John

 

I wouldn't sell anything that I have already bought and paid for, to finance anything. If you do that, in essence, all you did was lease that bike, dump money into it, and then said goodbye to it. The only way I would ever sell, would be extenuating circumstances, as they say. Things such as health, forclosure, etc. Where a greater good could be accomplished by doing so. Congratulations on your pending nuptuals though, but who said it had to be an extravaganza? It's the commitment that makes a beautiful wedding, not the visuals.

 

Maybe she likes the fact that when you get married, she has a bike to ride herself.

 

I'm not "Middle Eastern" she is, lol. I'm latin american myself, born and raised in USA.

 

 

Hmm, lets see how I can answer this without being unprofessional. She's a good woman, excellent to say the least. Does more than what I need her to do, she's independent, hard working, stays physically fit, smart, cooks, cleans, take care of my better than I take care of myself. There is a reason why I decided to put a ring on her and make her my wife. We split things up already, she has no bills and we both opened up a savings account together for our wedding. Grant it that I put most of the money into the account but at least she is doing something and not letting me hang dry. In her culture, middle eastern, the man pays for the wedding. During the wedding reception, banquet, party etc her family, friends and culture all contribute and provide her with monetary gifts, gold, etc etc.

Also, she is doing everything that she can to make the wedding as affordable as possible without going over the top, in her family and friends she has professionals in the business, we already have her uncle who is doing the wedding pictures and videos for FREE as a gift to us. Also, we have the limo service for free, flowers, we also got a banquet decently priced with top shelf liquor, food, dessert, wedding cake, decorated banquet etc etc for under $36 per plate, EVERYTHING included... Also with that fee we are getting a middle easter singer and dj and I'm getting a live band to play at our wedding for under $300 which will be my professional musician friend who will be performing.

We are estimating that the wedding will cost us around $10,000 give or take a few if needed. To have a wedding with over 200 guess under $10,000 is unheard of these days. Everything has been planned and our homework has been done, she has been an instrumental part of all of this and I am grateful that I don't have someone who is greedy, needy, selfish. During our engagement party we generated over $2,000 in monetary gifts which will used to purchase her dress, bridal stuff, and some other small items taken care of. The reason that I wan't extra funds in my account is for that "what if case" scenario, I like to pre plan and have an escape route if needed. I don't necessarily need to sell my bike, but like I said, having the security of having extra funds in your account is better than having nothing.

Her sister got married 3 yrs ago, they generated over 20k in monetary gifts and the wedding, honeymoon was fully paid for and they got to put a few dollars in their pockets. So in a sense I have some sort of comfort but being the man that I am I like to always be prepared. I guess thats the military man in me and my background. I make an excellent salary and living, house is paid for, no bills no burdens to be truly worried about. However, I spent quite a bit of money on her engagement ring and other gifts that left me somewhat low in funds so I like to recoup and have a sense of security by having extra spending cash if needed... Thats why I am considering letting go of my Iron for now, and I am seriously debating that option. I already talked to her about it, she informed me to hold on and wait and see what happens and not to rush into a decision that I may regret later on. That if needed, she has plenty of money saved up for that "in case scenario" however, since this is my obligation and duty I don't want her to feel obligated to do so but she's more than willing to assist and she has done plenty of work and cost cutting moves to save us money... Can't get any better than that...

 

Who said that I was being taken advantage of?? Not everyone does that to their mate, if thats the case, well you have chosen the wrong mate to be with...

 

She is very supportive and knows that my Harley's are my passion and hobby, she doesn't want me to sell anything, however, she encourage me to wait and see. She has been extremely supportive and helpful, so she's a keeper. I just like to have that "extra" sense of security for those what if scenarios.. I guess that I'm getting too nervous or anxious since this is my first wedding and hopefully the last one... Thank for you for your support!

 

Do what your heart tells you! Any bike can be replaced...the perfect wife/woman/mate might not! Good luck with your wedding!