Real BS
Cruiser
Joined: Jun 2010
Posts: 142
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From: Northern Virginia
...or the next time will be:
I don't like it here, let's move ....
I don't like your job, you're not home enough...
There are a 100 ways that they say it but it always comes out the same.
The only question is when will she be leaving. Your bud needs to figure out how to make the split as amicable as possible so he doesn't lose his shirt and visitation/custody of the kids.
I don't like it here, let's move ....
I don't like your job, you're not home enough...
There are a 100 ways that they say it but it always comes out the same.
The only question is when will she be leaving. Your bud needs to figure out how to make the split as amicable as possible so he doesn't lose his shirt and visitation/custody of the kids.
Outstanding HDF Member
Joined: Aug 2011
Posts: 2,325
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From: SE Illinois
He was obviously in the club when they met & his bike was part of his life, so she knew what she was getting into at that point. However, having kids changes everything & I'm sure she expects him to be there more now to help with and be involved in "family business" as a first priority rather than "club business" as his first priority. I guess it depends on what his priorities are...if his kids/family are his first then he should step away from the club. If the club comes first then he should let her go and hope he gets to see his kids on a regular basis after the divorce.
Either way, don't sell his scoot..
He's committed to the club, and to his family both...would be nearly an impossible decision. Either way, he's gonna be forced to give up something he loves which sucks. I feel for him and hope everything works out for the best.
Either way, don't sell his scoot..
He's committed to the club, and to his family both...would be nearly an impossible decision. Either way, he's gonna be forced to give up something he loves which sucks. I feel for him and hope everything works out for the best.
Banned/ toastman returned
Joined: Dec 2011
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From: here, there, and the like
let her walk.
pay her what she wants.
try for the best visitation rights he can.
divorces are cheaper paid all up front. make her happy as she walks out the door and life will be easier.
pay her what she wants.
try for the best visitation rights he can.
divorces are cheaper paid all up front. make her happy as she walks out the door and life will be easier.
Big Kahuna HDF Member
Joined: Nov 2008
Posts: 35,506
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From: Calgary eh
I have a brother that has a huge family problem. His wife basically said he has to get rid of his bike and walk away from the club or she is gone and will take the 2 kids with her. Causing a family break up. He loves his kids so much but the bike and club are a huge part of his Life and has 20yrs in. Been with her for 10. The reason is she feel second to the bike and the club. They can't seem to compromise. What would you all do? Me I don't take ultimatums well.
- You summed up her problem in one sentence. They've been together for 10 years, has kids with her. I can tell you with 100% certainty that you cannot sum up the problem in one sentence.
- If he wants to stay with his wife he has to eat humble pie. Make a serious effort to change his ways, give her what she wants, which is most likely emotional support and love.
- His buddies at the club will be there. First he deals with his home life, then they meet a compromise and he can hang with his friends.
- It's all about walking on thin ice.
Road Master
Joined: Apr 2011
Posts: 751
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From: Monterey, Louisiana
I think he should grow up and leave the boy's club along. Take the responsibility of a family man. There are too many of these failed marrages out there and to many kids growing up with single parents. It if down's t work down the road it want be because he's to stupid to stop hanging around with his buddies and not his family... Grow- up
Road Warrior
Joined: Jul 2011
Posts: 1,589
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From: USA
She married him for what he is & what he is to become. He married her for same like reason. When those are no longer compatible...well...
Maybe he can get an honest separation w/ sincere equal custody of the children
Maybe he can get an honest separation w/ sincere equal custody of the children
Ultimate HDF Member
Joined: Jul 2010
Posts: 6,373
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From: Central Texas
I agree with the crowd saying that it's over no matter what he does. She has given an ultimatum. If he gives into it another will follow, then another, and so on, and so on. Until he is a sniveling corpse of the man he used to be. It's a lose/lose situation, he just has to decide which loss would be the easiest to deal with. He'll either lose his wife or his manhood. My opinion is that if he choses her, he will lose both eventually, cause she will end up gone anyway, then he'll have nothing..
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I think he should grow up and leave the boy's club along. Take the responsibility of a family man. There are too many of these failed marrages out there and to many kids growing up with single parents. It if down's t work down the road it want be because he's to stupid to stop hanging around with his buddies and not his family... Grow- up
Your calling him stupid?
Last edited by Longhair4life; Dec 9, 2011 at 12:47 PM.