frustration ride
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From: Florida
RE: frustration ride
Been through the same thing, when my first wife and I got divorced it was winter time in Ohio and I sat around being miserable. Just remeber everything happens for a reason, I met a great lady who doesn't mind my Harley addictions. I hope the weather breaks for you soon.
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From: Cedar Point, NC
RE: frustration ride
Wow,
Sorry to hear that, we all understand the empty feeling you have right now. Every day is a little bit better than the one before it, if you try to make it so. Keep it amicable, be decent, and hopefully she will do the same. Best thing you can do is stay busy.
Mac
Sorry to hear that, we all understand the empty feeling you have right now. Every day is a little bit better than the one before it, if you try to make it so. Keep it amicable, be decent, and hopefully she will do the same. Best thing you can do is stay busy.
Mac
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Joined: Feb 2006
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From: Cleveland, OH - Longing for Savannah, GA
RE: frustration ride
Hey there bud,.....hopefully you are still checking these responses and reassuring yourself it will eventually be a warmer, sunnier day figuratively and literally. I can say (just like these other fellas) that I have been there and done that, as well. No sooner was my pain upon me, but then, it was gone. When you least expect a turn-around...there it is. I married for the second time - this time with 2 beautiful stepdaughters and a 3 year old daughter. All 4 of them stole my heart and to boot....they are all Harley fanatics! I agree with the first post in that you can't feel sorry for yourself - you need to take that bull by the horns and pull that mother to the ground....go where the sun is and get healthy again. Be good to yourself above all and holler if you need. Later brother....
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RE: frustration ride
To my brother in pain and to the rest of you good ol guys out there, your openness, wisdom, experience and respect speaks very highly of you all.
I guess, I too am a statistic -- 2 divorces over 20 years. Everything that's been said above is right on. There's no one solution, multiple options are always best but overall you need to keep yourself healthy and on an even keel to reduce the risk of making things worse. I learned this the hard way but as one guy said, time heals all wounds. The most important thing I learned throughout the whole ordeal is that we are subject to the choices we make. By all means examine what's gone into your choices in life and don't repeat your mistakes. I'm not saying don't marry again, on the contrary. After many years I met a wonderful young lady and have a little one on the way -- and I ain't no spring chicken. But I get to do it right this time and I thank the man above for one more chance.
Blessings to you and be food to yourself.
I guess, I too am a statistic -- 2 divorces over 20 years. Everything that's been said above is right on. There's no one solution, multiple options are always best but overall you need to keep yourself healthy and on an even keel to reduce the risk of making things worse. I learned this the hard way but as one guy said, time heals all wounds. The most important thing I learned throughout the whole ordeal is that we are subject to the choices we make. By all means examine what's gone into your choices in life and don't repeat your mistakes. I'm not saying don't marry again, on the contrary. After many years I met a wonderful young lady and have a little one on the way -- and I ain't no spring chicken. But I get to do it right this time and I thank the man above for one more chance.
Blessings to you and be food to yourself.
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From: Prescott, AZ
RE: frustration ride
first marriage lasted 14 years.. divorced, thought all was over (1988) met #2 in 91 (she was the Donna Reed style and had NEVER been on a bike) got my first HD in 96 - she was not all that happy but told me to go ahead and she would try - Three bikes later and close to 100K total - She loves it - we are now on year 15 and loving every min - Looking back to 88 - best thing that ever happened to me - wouldn't take the Bitch back on a bet.....
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RE: frustration ride
My first marriage lasted 16 years.. we divorced in 1996 and I thought I'd never marry again. I met #2 just a few months after my divorce was final. She wanted a bike of her own from the git-go. Now, I've got a Road Glide, she's got a Sportster 1200, we've got two kids and life is "all that" after 8 years of marriage.
Looking back to 96, it was the best damned thing that ever happened to me. My ex- isn't a Bitch, but I wouldn't take her back on a bet, either...
Looking back to 96, it was the best damned thing that ever happened to me. My ex- isn't a Bitch, but I wouldn't take her back on a bet, either...