Wife Will Not Ride!
Road Warrior
Joined: Mar 2006
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From: North Jersey
RE: Wife Will Not Ride!
I cant really say much without repeating whats already been said by the others, but I can tell you this. My wife loves to ride with me anytime, but what she especially enjoys is going for a nice sunset ride. We time our ride to arrive at a scenic overlook just to sit together and watch the sunset. Then ride off to an outdoor cafe just as it starts getting dark, have a pleasant meal, then head home for some "quality time". I agree with the others about not pushing her into joining you, but one way to make it sound more appealing to her is to add a little romantic enticement in a relaxed kind of way. Now I am no Romeo myself. I'm usually about as romantic as a Buffalo Hunter, but my wife thinks that some of the rides we have taken have been quite romantic. I didn't plan it that way, but it turned out to be just that.
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Joined: Jan 2005
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From: cleveland area
RE: Wife Will Not Ride!
here's mine:
bought my first bike in a long time shortly after i got married with the knowledge she didn't care to ride. it occasionally got lonely without her, but as mentioned before by someone else. I to have a high stress career and riding is therapy and I enjoy the alone time. She has occasionally rode with me, then I got into an accident where someone else was at fault. It made her feel better it was not my fault, but it made her even more nervous. We are leaving monday for a riding trip with a group of 6 couples. our second day, we are doing nothing but riding so we'll see what happens.
NEVER push the issue, once she sees how much you love it, curiosity will get her. Take her for a ride around a large parking lot the first time and a few slow back streets on a warm night. A backrest also helps make her feel more secure.
BUT I love my alone time and the leg room my solo seat provides!!!!!!
bought my first bike in a long time shortly after i got married with the knowledge she didn't care to ride. it occasionally got lonely without her, but as mentioned before by someone else. I to have a high stress career and riding is therapy and I enjoy the alone time. She has occasionally rode with me, then I got into an accident where someone else was at fault. It made her feel better it was not my fault, but it made her even more nervous. We are leaving monday for a riding trip with a group of 6 couples. our second day, we are doing nothing but riding so we'll see what happens.
NEVER push the issue, once she sees how much you love it, curiosity will get her. Take her for a ride around a large parking lot the first time and a few slow back streets on a warm night. A backrest also helps make her feel more secure.
BUT I love my alone time and the leg room my solo seat provides!!!!!!
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From: Prescott, AZ
RE: Wife Will Not Ride!
ORIGINAL: ROLLNTIGER
I respect your post. My wife absolutely loves to ride with me, we go everywhere together. She has talked about attending the MSF course and the only thing stopping her is our two teenage sons are dead set against her getting her own bike. She has talked to them about all the things that could happen even riding 2 up. They are just concerned with her safety and her ability to handle a bike. I think once they get a little older she will make the leap but is happy being on the back with me.
I respect your post. My wife absolutely loves to ride with me, we go everywhere together. She has talked about attending the MSF course and the only thing stopping her is our two teenage sons are dead set against her getting her own bike. She has talked to them about all the things that could happen even riding 2 up. They are just concerned with her safety and her ability to handle a bike. I think once they get a little older she will make the leap but is happy being on the back with me.
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From: Vermont
RE: Wife Will Not Ride!
Wife said for years that I could never get a bike. Went on vacation with some friends and they took their bike in a trailer behind their motorhome. Wife then said take the MSF course, rent a bike and see if you/we like it. Came back from vacation, signed up for the MSF course and two weeks later bought a bike without having taken the course yet. She loves to ride, kids love to ride.
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From: Deer Park, Texas
RE: Wife Will Not Ride!
ORIGINAL: harley0711
No disrespect intended - but since when do teenage children make the rules and decide what the parents will or won't do -- OK, I have said my piece - now I will crawl back into my garage....
ORIGINAL: ROLLNTIGER
I respect your post. My wife absolutely loves to ride with me, we go everywhere together. She has talked about attending the MSF course and the only thing stopping her is our two teenage sons are dead set against her getting her own bike. She has talked to them about all the things that could happen even riding 2 up. They are just concerned with her safety and her ability to handle a bike. I think once they get a little older she will make the leap but is happy being on the back with me.
I respect your post. My wife absolutely loves to ride with me, we go everywhere together. She has talked about attending the MSF course and the only thing stopping her is our two teenage sons are dead set against her getting her own bike. She has talked to them about all the things that could happen even riding 2 up. They are just concerned with her safety and her ability to handle a bike. I think once they get a little older she will make the leap but is happy being on the back with me.
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Road Captain
Joined: May 2006
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From: Connecticut
RE: Wife Will Not Ride!
Thanks for the responses! I agree with everyone, I do not plan on pushing the issue at all.....will wait to see whether her thoughts change over time. What I found interesting is the various circumstances noted in the responses that resulted in changed thinking. Again, thanks for the responses.
Ed
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RE: Wife Will Not Ride!
My wife never really liked going places on the Panhead,she didnt like the buddy seat. Shes the one that finally(after 15 years) put her foot down and basically put the deal together on the '06. Cant leave her at home now!
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RE: Wife Will Not Ride!
My wife loves to ride but doesn't want to drive. She is content on the back seat so there we go and then there is something about that giant vibrator that seems to pay off later 
When we first met I was riding and rode for a while after but had to put it aside for a bit while raising the family. Now the kids are grown and on their own so back in the saddle I go and the wife understands it because I came with a bike.
When we first met I was riding and rode for a while after but had to put it aside for a bit while raising the family. Now the kids are grown and on their own so back in the saddle I go and the wife understands it because I came with a bike.
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