I really struggled with mine the first 5,000 miles when I first got it, and then got the Ride Like a Pro video and that really helped. What really helped me, especially when carrying a passenger, is just before coming to a complete stop, I have fully released the front brake, use only the back brake to finish the stop, and then get both feet on the ground, keeping the bike totally straight up and down, and if need be, such as on a hill, reapply the front brake to keep from rolling. The bike is too top heavy to sit there with one foot on the brake, and one on the ground, which is how MSF teaches. It's also critical for me that my passenger sits motionless at stops, and when taking off from a stop.
And, as you mentioned, keep your eyes up...that helps you maintain your balance.
Also, the Harley tour bikes have a unique front end geometry, with reverse triple trees. If you look behind your fairing, you will see the fork tubes behind the frame neck, not in front of the neck, like most other bikes. They handle differently at slow speeds, but once you master it, it's great.