I am tore up over this
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From: Macon GA
I am tore up over this
Ive been riding 36 years. My misses has been riding 2 years, we have been married just over 1 year. For the first time Im thinking about calling it quits.
We usually ride with the Southern Cruisers. Two of our group have been killed on bikes in the last week. One on a charity ride, the other on his way to work. In both cases the riders were not at fault. They never saw it coming.
Over the years I have lost close friends, some of them on bikes. That never really bothered me, the friends I lost were being just plain stupid when they died. Drugs and/or alcohol were factors in thier accidents.
These two recent accidents have really made me think about life. My misses and I have no kids in the house, a nice home, good income, and we are still young. We are in what I think are the best years of our lives. We do what we want when we want. I could not imagine losing her in a stupid accident.
Ive thought about selling the bikes, buying a trike, or waiting to see how I feel in a month or two.
I dont know, Im still reeling from these two accidents.
We usually ride with the Southern Cruisers. Two of our group have been killed on bikes in the last week. One on a charity ride, the other on his way to work. In both cases the riders were not at fault. They never saw it coming.
Over the years I have lost close friends, some of them on bikes. That never really bothered me, the friends I lost were being just plain stupid when they died. Drugs and/or alcohol were factors in thier accidents.
These two recent accidents have really made me think about life. My misses and I have no kids in the house, a nice home, good income, and we are still young. We are in what I think are the best years of our lives. We do what we want when we want. I could not imagine losing her in a stupid accident.
Ive thought about selling the bikes, buying a trike, or waiting to see how I feel in a month or two.
I dont know, Im still reeling from these two accidents.
Road Warrior
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I'm sorry for your loss.
Only you can decide this one though. I feel the same way as far as anything happening with my wife aboard.
I'm sure your decision will be the right one - either way.
Only you can decide this one though. I feel the same way as far as anything happening with my wife aboard.
I'm sure your decision will be the right one - either way.
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Losses like this aren't easy to take, they make you question things we take for granted otherwise. Condolences, and prayers up for those who travel where we have yet to go...
Maybe take a break, for a while, then see what feels best for you...
Maybe take a break, for a while, then see what feels best for you...
Road Warrior
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Sorry to hear about your friends. I've been through some of the same things you're feeling now. My advice is worth what you pay for so take it for what it's worth. I'd give it some time to mull over and get over my grief. You don't want to make a rash decision just a week after being crushed by the news of your friends deaths. Give the grieving process some time and see how you feel in a month, 2 months or 6. You'll know when it's time to make the decision. You don't have to ride or sell the bikes in that time period. But when you've given the grief process time to work itself out you'll make a better decision on what's best for you. Best wishes!!
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Give yourself some time to absorb all you've been though and see how you feel.A trike's not necessarily safer,they're certainly not as agile when you need to get out of a tough situation.Wishing you strength though this difficult time.
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I’ve been where you are now and have struggled with those same questions. I think about the risks every time I ride … especially when my wife is with me. You will feel differently about this as time goes by. For me it’s a constant reevaluation. Be careful and take care.
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Road Master
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Make no rushed or rash decisions... Take a break from riding if you must... then decide what you want to do, but not now while you are emotionally involved. Make a decision with your head, not your emotions. Then you will feel god about what your final decision is.
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...sorry to hear that, been through it myself a few times over the 30+ years of ridin...I think it's like this..we all know that what we do is risky, hell even when I'm in a car going 85 and I see a guy on a bike next to me I think..wow, if for any reason that guy went down, blow-out, deer hit, someone drunk coming other way...he would probably die at that speed, but we love to ride so much that the love out weighs that risk in our minds...BUT...if the day comes when the love fades to the point where the thoughts of the risks are stronger than that love of riding , then in my opinion it's time to hang it up...because now your not enjoying it..
