What to do now?
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Cruiser
Joined: Sep 2014
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From: NorCal
Was just informed that his wishes were to be cremated and that there be no services at all... just his wife. Would have liked to say goodbye. just talking to the group of you all makes me feel better thanks for listening. Rob
Tourer
Joined: Apr 2017
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From: Texas
About a month ago I lost a good friend to an idiot cager, unfortunately it wasn't the first. One of his closest friends refused to get back on his bike and was going to put it up for sale. We counseled him to wait, a few weeks later he and I talked and he asked if I'd go on a short ride with him, since that ride he's back to riding like he used to. Everyone reacts differently but if you take it slow then in your own time you might feel differently than you do today.
I'm sorry for your loss.
I'm sorry for your loss.
Road Captain
Joined: May 2008
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From: Ozarks
thanks for all the kind words. I think its just going to take time, i have never questioned if riding was dangerous, i know it is, but when something like this happens to a responsible, professionally trained rider its hard to rationalize. Just makes me feel like anyone could be taken away at any minute. Thanks again Rob
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Joined: Mar 2009
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From: Niles Canyon Ca.
Life's a dice toss, there is no grand plan nor reason it just happens minute by minute. Loss is part of it, isn't how someone dies we all do it's how you cope and go on with your life in the aftermath.
Can't tell you what to do but pick the path that right for you, the thought of riding scares you park it for a while. Time changes things trust me on that one I've buried more than I care to remember. I went through this same crisis, parked the bike for almost a year once over it but I'm still riding.
Don't beat yourself up with doubt, those worms get into your head it affects everything in your daily life not just riding. My condolences for the lost friendship but your life needs to go on.
Can't tell you what to do but pick the path that right for you, the thought of riding scares you park it for a while. Time changes things trust me on that one I've buried more than I care to remember. I went through this same crisis, parked the bike for almost a year once over it but I'm still riding.
Don't beat yourself up with doubt, those worms get into your head it affects everything in your daily life not just riding. My condolences for the lost friendship but your life needs to go on.
Big Kahuna HDF Member
Joined: Dec 2012
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That really sucks to hear. Very sad.
As for what you should do...nothing major. When you fell like doing something...whatever it is...you and only you will know it. Don't rush it. But I'd find small hobbies, like reading or TV, just to keep busy and not dwell on the bad things.
I stopped riding completely in '81 because I thought about crashing and it wasn't fun anymore. So, you may not want to ride for awhile and to me, I completely understand that. But there'll come a time, that you'll want to again. If not, you might want to get away from it. Only you can make these choices.
Good Luck to you.
As for what you should do...nothing major. When you fell like doing something...whatever it is...you and only you will know it. Don't rush it. But I'd find small hobbies, like reading or TV, just to keep busy and not dwell on the bad things.
I stopped riding completely in '81 because I thought about crashing and it wasn't fun anymore. So, you may not want to ride for awhile and to me, I completely understand that. But there'll come a time, that you'll want to again. If not, you might want to get away from it. Only you can make these choices.
Good Luck to you.
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Joined: Jul 2015
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From: PA
Rob, sorry to hear about your friend Mike. Based on how you speak of him he sounds like a great person and you were blessed to have a friend like him. "Time and unexpected events" catch all of us sooner or later. You could ask yourself what would he want you to do, or if it was you instead of him, what would you want him to do? But it's not really what others want. It's your call. My advice would be to allow some time to sort things out.
I lost my son 5 years ago (not from riding). I started riding as a result, because I was so sad. It's been a good thing for me, but I'm still very sad, of course. Loss of a loved one is excruciating. I feel for you man.
I lost my son 5 years ago (not from riding). I started riding as a result, because I was so sad. It's been a good thing for me, but I'm still very sad, of course. Loss of a loved one is excruciating. I feel for you man.
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Road Warrior
Joined: Feb 2017
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From: farmington michigan
Some of us have been in the same place as you I know I have do what you think is best for you but what I would suggest is go out and sit on your bike then once that's comfortable take it around the clock (short ride) then park it and think about it at least you can say you did try. Whatever you decide to to and I'm sure I speak for most of us WE UNDERSTAND