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Here's the story. My son, age 21 wants to buy a crotch rocket some metric racer that all his friends ride. We have been a Harley family and he knows all about Harley's since he was a kid. Thing is I don't want to turn into my Dad and forbid him from buying one. (My Dad still thinks I am nuts for riding) I just don't like the way I see most people ride these types of bikes. Weaving in and out of traffic, going as fast as possible whenever you can etc. This is a sticky situation since he is now a young man and can make his own decisions but this is one I wish he would reconsider.
Can anyone help with suggestions on how to deal with this?
Would you approve or support his decision if he wanted to buy a Harley? Is it just the fact that he wants a sportbike that bothers you, or the fact that he wants to ride?
I understand your concerns but he is 21 years old and should be making his own decisions.
Not all rocket riders drive like fools. If he has a good head on his shoulders he will be smart enough to know when it is appropriate to let it run and when to ride normally.
He has ridden with me many times on my older Harley and he rides well. Of course I don't know how he rides when he is by himself or with his crowd. I don't think it is a matter of letting go because I have no problem with him riding, I just hate those race bikes.
Well, truth is, at his age he will find a way to get his hands on one - even borrowing a friend's bike. If you let him get his own, he will at least appreciate and (possibly) respect it. Forcing his hand to get a Harley would probably not go over too well. Don't worry, when he gets the sportbike thing out of his system, he'll be looking for a Harley.
You have, over the years, displayed a sense of maturity in the way that you ride. You have been careful, you have been courteous, you have been cautious. Your son has learned all of things from you, already. You are a bigger influence on him than any of his friends!
Thats a decision that only he can make just like you did when you decided that Harley was for you... I'm sure you raised him right and taught him responsibility now you have to sit back and watch your efforts which is hard sometimes but you did your job now it is his to use his lessons learned, Hopefully in the the near future he will come around and want a Harley as well ...Enjoy the ride with your son those times get few and far between as they get older.... Good Luck
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