Best friend crashed.
Very sorry to hear about the unfortunate event, sometimes it not what you say, its how you act, just being there for him will mean a lot to him I'm sure, don't try to go in there with pre thought out things to say, just wing like any other day you would talk with him. just keep it natural, that will be the best thing.
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Lot's of good words here....I'm impress ! I had mysefft a big crash in 07 at the Dragon trail, it was a near death experience but I guess I was lucky I did not had permanent injuries. One thing I remember,,,, those Friday night with my friends a pizza and some magazines.
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oh and on the real side....don't say "it's going to be all right" or make promises that can't be kept. It's ok to say to him, that you don't know what to say, but that you will help where you can and do whatever is possible.
Encourage positive thoughts with him and the family. It's ok to acknowledge the truth, (if the spinal cord is severed, he's not going to walk again and will be wc bound, but if not, and it was just damaged, then sure, only time will tell, and that's where he will need to be encouraged to work hard and be positive, and see where he will end up)
He's going to be on an emotional roller coaster like you've never seen, esp once he starts rehab, and suffers from pain and movement and either gaining or not making progress. He's going to be frustrated with all he can't do initially, and will feel guilty for not working and supporting his family....believe me, i know what our friend went through.
I think the other Rog can back that up
Encourage positive thoughts with him and the family. It's ok to acknowledge the truth, (if the spinal cord is severed, he's not going to walk again and will be wc bound, but if not, and it was just damaged, then sure, only time will tell, and that's where he will need to be encouraged to work hard and be positive, and see where he will end up)
He's going to be on an emotional roller coaster like you've never seen, esp once he starts rehab, and suffers from pain and movement and either gaining or not making progress. He's going to be frustrated with all he can't do initially, and will feel guilty for not working and supporting his family....believe me, i know what our friend went through.
I think the other Rog can back that up
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he's going to be spending a long time in the hospital , having a friend sitting next to his bed will mean a lot to him
as i've said before , doctors always tell you the worst possible outcome . it's up to you (in this case your friend) to do better than they think .
best wishes to your buddy , he's lucky to have you as a friend
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my thoughts exactly. be strong for him.
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I haven't see him yet but I'm in contact with his wife and friend. His wife told me to wait a little before visit him. His lung infection is getting better but still need assistance for breathing and he can hardly talk which get him frustrated. Once the lung condition will permit, he will be able to sit down in the bed. He is getting a lot of morphine still after a week.
Hope to visit him early next week with some of his friends.
Hope to visit him early next week with some of his friends.
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Sad to hear this news..... I agree with the "less is more" theory. I doubt your friend is expecting you to say or do anything spectacular. Just beig there for him and supporting him in his recovery is what he needs.