Hiding $$ Spent From the Spouse
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I've become a pro at this. It helps to work from home and pray that ups or fedex comes before she gets home from work.
Get your own bank account, credit card with "no paper statements" option, and a paypal account.
It also helps to have a wife that doesn't notice 99% of the changes you make to your bike or truck. LOL
I just put a new exhaust on my truck that she didn't know about until my loud mouthed 11 year old noticed the dual pipes sticking out the back.
Get your own bank account, credit card with "no paper statements" option, and a paypal account.
It also helps to have a wife that doesn't notice 99% of the changes you make to your bike or truck. LOL
I just put a new exhaust on my truck that she didn't know about until my loud mouthed 11 year old noticed the dual pipes sticking out the back.
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From: MD just outside DC
Wow this thread made me SO glad I am single..
My ex would go through stages where he questioned what I got for me. Umm my money if I want to spend it I will. Even if I want to spend it poorly my decision. We did the 3 bank accounts thing. That helped but really problem wasn't the money it was he needed to go.
Now if I am ever not single again I could care less what a man spends his money on. Well as long as it isn't hookers or drugs. That I would care about .
Anything else great. If it puts a smile on your face great. The last thing I want is a man having to devise strategies to hind things from me. Hell I don't even like it when my 8 year decides he needs to do that. For me if I love someone I want them to be 100% of who they want to be for themselves not my version of them.
If I want an obedient good boy I will get a dog. Hell even my dogs have been allowed the freedom to be themselves.
I get that there is more to your marriages than that. I also understand that for some of you it is a fun game that is all in good fun with your wives. I just see so many miserable people who try to control and change their spouses. If someone wants to change they will. If they don't there is nothing you can do to get them to. Except make both of you miserable.
My ex would go through stages where he questioned what I got for me. Umm my money if I want to spend it I will. Even if I want to spend it poorly my decision. We did the 3 bank accounts thing. That helped but really problem wasn't the money it was he needed to go.
Now if I am ever not single again I could care less what a man spends his money on. Well as long as it isn't hookers or drugs. That I would care about .
Anything else great. If it puts a smile on your face great. The last thing I want is a man having to devise strategies to hind things from me. Hell I don't even like it when my 8 year decides he needs to do that. For me if I love someone I want them to be 100% of who they want to be for themselves not my version of them.
If I want an obedient good boy I will get a dog. Hell even my dogs have been allowed the freedom to be themselves.
I get that there is more to your marriages than that. I also understand that for some of you it is a fun game that is all in good fun with your wives. I just see so many miserable people who try to control and change their spouses. If someone wants to change they will. If they don't there is nothing you can do to get them to. Except make both of you miserable.
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From: Orygun
She is my best friend. She spends whatever she wants and I spend whatever I want. We do not judge each other, ever. I totally respect her in whatever she does or buys. I wouldn't have it any other way. I spent too many years in another life doing just what the OP is asking, I would never go back to that.
Strange thread. I pay the bills, give her an allowance for the house, kids expenses,her spending money, I have the 401 stuff auto deduct, and the rest she does not ask me about, nor do I ask about hers. Learned this the hard way the first time around. Not asking permission to live life anymore.
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From: Warwick, RI
We have a joint account for the household bills. It gets a predetermined amount each pay check from each individual. This covers rent, electric, cable, vet bills, groceries.
We each have our own bank accounts for the rest (car payments, insurance, credit card bills, etc). She told me when we met "you can buy as many car parts and bike parts as you want, but I get to buy as many shoes as I want". I do have to remind her of this from time to time, she says the caveat was parts, not complete cars and bikes. We met 4 years ago and I have had 3 bikes and 6 cars in that time.
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From: pottsville,pa
Wow this thread made me SO glad I am single..
My ex would go through stages where he questioned what I got for me. Umm my money if I want to spend it I will. Even if I want to spend it poorly my decision. We did the 3 bank accounts thing. That helped but really problem wasn't the money it was he needed to go.
Now if I am ever not single again I could care less what a man spends his money on. Well as long as it isn't hookers or drugs. That I would care about .
Anything else great. If it puts a smile on your face great. The last thing I want is a man having to devise strategies to hind things from me. Hell I don't even like it when my 8 year decides he needs to do that. For me if I love someone I want them to be 100% of who they want to be for themselves not my version of them.
If I want an obedient good boy I will get a dog. Hell even my dogs have been allowed the freedom to be themselves.
I get that there is more to your marriages than that. I also understand that for some of you it is a fun game that is all in good fun with your wives. I just see so many miserable people who try to control and change their spouses. If someone wants to change they will. If they don't there is nothing you can do to get them to. Except make both of you miserable.
My ex would go through stages where he questioned what I got for me. Umm my money if I want to spend it I will. Even if I want to spend it poorly my decision. We did the 3 bank accounts thing. That helped but really problem wasn't the money it was he needed to go.
Now if I am ever not single again I could care less what a man spends his money on. Well as long as it isn't hookers or drugs. That I would care about .
Anything else great. If it puts a smile on your face great. The last thing I want is a man having to devise strategies to hind things from me. Hell I don't even like it when my 8 year decides he needs to do that. For me if I love someone I want them to be 100% of who they want to be for themselves not my version of them.
If I want an obedient good boy I will get a dog. Hell even my dogs have been allowed the freedom to be themselves.
I get that there is more to your marriages than that. I also understand that for some of you it is a fun game that is all in good fun with your wives. I just see so many miserable people who try to control and change their spouses. If someone wants to change they will. If they don't there is nothing you can do to get them to. Except make both of you miserable.