I love how so many people are so quick to judge how a posters relationship is based on a few words in this thread!

I still don't think for the most part it's jealousy or insecurity in a relationship like every seems so quick to spout off. Every single person on this thread (on this forum for that matter) I'm sure has some sort of item their spouse does or could do that would make them uncomfortable. More than likely the spouse/SO tends to respect that and (hopefully) avoid it in the future! Just because in this case it's about another woman riding in what is essentially someone else's personal space doesn't mean much really. Everybody has different tolerances and comfort levels.

Sit back and think about it, is there something that your hubby/wife (girlfriend/boyfriend) could do that you wouldn't like, or make you uncomfortable? My wife happens to consider passenger seat mostly hers, but if it were really a trust/jealousy issue as some contend, I'm sure she'd have words to say about me dancing or flirting with other women (or going to strip clubs for that matter). Just as if there was a trust or jealousy issue, I'd not be happy with her going on a girls trip to Vegas (such as she did last weekend!)

Now if a woman doesn't ride at all, yet won't/doesn't want the hubby to have other women on back (or help out stranded women, whatever), then I could see there is some jealousy or possible trust issues. It all really depends on the situation.

 

I made a better deal on this, my 2nd marriage. Told her about the problem and her look was of "why would that be an issue?" I travel a lot and as she said, if we don't trust each other, it won't work anyway. Cuts both ways, I am not here to watch her nor her on the road with me. God love her.......know I do.

Kind of new right off as we met on internet and met first time at a strip club. She is from Texas and her friends here put her up to the meet location. I told her what type of bar it was and her response was, "so what, it will be fun." Pretty much knew then she would be a keeper.

 

Can't say if you did something wrong or not. If you did I'd probably make the same mistake. I certainly don't see it upsetting my wife (25+yrs) and if it did I would certainly talk it out with her, then probably make the same mistake if it happened again.

 

My wife would never have a problem with it.She says unless its a stranger theres no problem and any woman that has a problem with it is just insecure.

 

HIT IT...... shes gonna think ya did anyways!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

First I understand about the passenger seat. It’s about Respect and Trust. I’ve given rides to all members of my family, Friends and Neighbors. Yes she knew at the time or I told her later. I’m too old and grey to worry about some young pretty stranger asking for a ride. But if it did happen I would ask my wife first.

You did the right thing helping a friend in need. I grow up in a different time (in the 60’s/70’s before cell phones etc). I was taught if a Friend calls needing help or if you see a vehicle along side of the road you Stop and offer help Period. Be it a ride home, to town or the nearest gas station. Male or Female, Young or Old, No difference. No matter what you’re driving or riding be a Tractor, Wheat Truck or Bike.

You ask if the situation was reversed, again no problem. I hope I’ve taught my kids the same values and know my wife would help a friend in need.

Also, I have no problem about riding biotech. Both my parents rode; I grow up riding behind my Mom and Dad, In the late 60’ early 70’s, until I saved enough money to get my own bike. And it’s not uncommon for my teenage son, nieces and nephews and younger grandkids to ride with me and I’ve ridden bitch with my brother and a few friends or visa versa. I’m past the age of worrying about what others think. Live Life and Enjoy It.

I’ve been lucky enough to have met and have ridden, with both male and female riders, and I will say some of the ladies are better riders, then some of the men. My mom being one, a (Stubborn old German farm girl) could ride your socks off in her day. I’ll use Georgia Girl as an example, I’ve met both her and her husband, and again I would not have a problem riding biotech with either of them, if the situation arouse, but of course with the spouse’s permission.

Guess what I’m tiring to say, is each situation is different, or depends on ones intent. I agree its ALL about Respect, Trust, Values and the Golden Rule.

Sorry for the long post. Each Ride Safe, Live Well, Love Much and Laugh Often.

 

Just asked my wife how she would feel, and she is still telling me why I should not do that. So I guess you should have taken the truck. Been married 15 years and I still can't figure her out, but I couldn't be without her.

 

If mine isn't going to ride with me I remove her seat, sissy bar and pegs and just put a rack on the back. It only takes a half hour or so to put the chit on if she want's to go for a ride and saves allot grief. Letting another women ride on her seat would be like me loaning a pair of her panties out.

 

I hear ya oab life is to damn short for that kind of BS from one you take care of.Get her a security blanket or a vibrating buddy man or better yet yourself a set of *****.I'm a chauvinistic pig that doesn't mind confrontation.I actually encourage it most of the time.Just my nature.As oldairboater I'm not one you might want to take advice from.

 

My wife is the ONLY woman allowed on my/our scooter!!!! You are my Hero