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Old Aug 11, 2009 | 06:28 PM
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Hey all.
I've got a bit of a dilemma & wanted to get your advice. About 2 weeks ago an aquaintance of mine was killed by a drunk driver. Head on collision & she died instantly. The services for her happened before I knew about her death &therefore I didn't make her funeral.
Today, I learned that a friend at work (crane operator) died early Saturday morning. He apparently put his bike down & died from his injuries. Due to the time of the accident & knowing what he was going through dealing with his ex-wife, I suspect alcohol was involved. He had been paying $1400 month child support for 2 kids & the ex wouldn't let him see his children. Unfortunately, he started drinking a bit excessively. Now, my question...
I want to pay my respects to his family, but my wife thought it may be bad ju-ju...Personally I figure when your time is up, it's up! Of course, with that said alcohol can certainly speed up the process. What are your thoughts?

Thanks,
Clay : (
 

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Old Aug 11, 2009 | 06:29 PM
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go with your gut... it will lead you in the right direction...
 
Old Aug 11, 2009 | 06:31 PM
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There is no such thing as "bad ju-ju".

Follow your heart and do what you need to do.
 
Old Aug 11, 2009 | 06:33 PM
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If he was a friend go to the visitation. On the way reach up and slap that ju-ju biotch.

As fxd650 said "follow your gut instinct". I would go to pay my respects.
 
Old Aug 11, 2009 | 06:39 PM
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Pay your respects to him, his children, and his ex.
 
Old Aug 11, 2009 | 06:41 PM
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If he really was a friend you owe it to him to pay your last respects regardless of how he died or whatever else was going on in his life.
 
Old Aug 11, 2009 | 06:41 PM
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He was your FRIEND. No bad ju-ju there.
 
Old Aug 11, 2009 | 06:44 PM
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If he was your friend you have to go no question. Go for the family.
 
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Go say good-bye to your friend, if you don't it will eat at you for the rest of your life.
 
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