Rode it around a lot on saturday and everything seems to be ok now.
Its so quiet its almost unreal.

Mobile one is my sportster made it louder but i guess its better for my softail...

I ended up using the easy clutch adjusting method- when i was doing it by the book it said not to torque the adjuster screw but just lightly seat it, well i must have a thread thats a little messed up because i can keep screwing it in pretty far past the hard spot before it seats.
So instead of backing it out 1/2 to full turn mine was more like 1 1/2- 2 turns.